THE MYTH OF SPONTANEOUS SEX: UNRAVELING THE TRUTH ABOUT CONSENT

Debunking the Myth of Spontaneous Sex, and how this myth gets guys in trouble!

In the realm of sexual consent, there's a common misconception that can lead to misunderstandings and even consent violations. Many people express a desire to improve their understanding and practice of consent, but they worry about interrupting the flow and spontaneity of sexual encounters. What they're essentially saying is that they're willing to take the risk of experiencing or committing consent violations to preserve the myth that good sex is always spontaneous.

This myth is deeply rooted in sex-negative culture, where there's an unspoken belief that when sex occurs, it shouldn't be openly acknowledged or discussed. We might want sex, but we're not supposed to own that desire or express how we want it. Instead, we're led to believe that sex should just magically happen, smoothly and without a word spoken. No conversations, no discussions—just go with the flow.

While this approach might occasionally lead to satisfying experiences, more often than not, it doesn't. 

Why is Spontaneous Sex Dangerous?

This myth is responsible for people engaging in sexual behavior they don't truly desire or aren't ready for, simply because they fear it might disrupt the supposed spontaneity.

This narrative is frequently gendered and scripted in ways that limit and disempower individuals. It leads people into situations where they feel compelled to have sex or conform to societal expectations, even if it means crossing their own or their partner's boundaries.

This is dangerous fellas!

Unlocking Confidence Through Sexy Consent: The Path to Empowered Intimacy

Breaking free from this myth and redefining the concept of consent is akin to learning a new skill. It may feel awkward and unfamiliar initially, but with practice, it becomes easier, even second nature. If you genuinely want to embrace consent and express your playful and lustful desires more fully, it's crucial to let go of the notion that sex must always be a magical, spontaneous, unspoken act.

Consent isn't a one-size-fits-all concept. And there are alternative ways to approach it that might work better for you. 

If you're eager to learn how to make consent sexy and integrate it into your sexual experiences in a way that feels right for you, I'm here to help. Don't hesitate to reach out and start this empowering conversation today.